I've been through some relocations myself. Moving to a new area can be exciting but it can also be stressful. I understand the difficulties that you are experiencing and will work hard to make your transition as easy as possible.
You can glean a lot of general data from the links below. But if you need to talk to someone about a specific situation, please feel free to call me for advice.
I like the comprehensive collection of resources at The Riley Guide. Here you'll find tools that allow you to make community comparisons, check out cost of living, and much more.
Homefair.com has some good moving tips.